Friendship Triangles

Many at times, your life comes to a situation where you can do nothing to handle it. One of those are friendship troubles. Maybe not all, but some certainly are. Friendship of two, everything would be easily solved. But three? I'm not perfectly sure about that . . .
   Friendship Triangles , although successful with many, have caused unhappiness in many and has been a major  reason for tears in the eyes of  most of the teens.

   I'd like to share my experiences based on troubles faced in a Friendship Triangle with you guys so maybe you  would not repeat the mistakes made and these might help you in solving out your troubles, too, in fact!
  A few years ago, me and Joy (name changed) were the best of friends. Our friendship has been a different one. The reason why we both accepted each other as best friends was only one; we've been together in a same section in school for two consecutive years and also, we didn't have much friends around. We spent our best time together for two months in the beginning of the new session. Everything seemed to go exactly the way it had to be and we both were extremely happy about it. But soon after our summer vacations, everything changed.
   I met Carla (name changed), one of the popular kids at the school, just after the reopening of the school. I made her one of my best friends and we started spending time together. The reason why I wanted to be with Carla was that, I believed, roaming with the popular kids would make me one of them too.
   Least did I know, then, that there is nothing called 'popularity' among kids in the school. It took me two to three years to discover the real meaning school life and popularity. I would like to discuss about this in the later posts, for sure! =)
   So coming back to my narration, after three months of spending time with Carla, I felt that she was a stepping stone for me to become as popular as her and that way, I completely ignored the presence of Joy as one of my best friends.
   Joy was really disturbed and then, one day, she approached me to tell everything she felt like. The feeling of ignorance had a great impact on her. It was my mistake, by I didn't realize it then. For me, everything I did was right. I didn't accept my fault and started to fight with Joy. Because of this, Joy did something, which brought me and Joy back as best friends. But so surprising, nothing was planned.
  She didn't let me know that she was angry at me, in fact, she was acting just fine with me. But, Joy went to approach Carla to make her her best friend too. And she was successful in doing that.
   Soon after they became good friends, they started spending time more time together than me and Carla did! That created a hard time for me. . .and that was when I realized something. The realization was that because of my will to gain popularity, I had been disloyal to my first and the most trust-able friend of mine, Joy.
   So lucky was I that, fortunately, Joy had understood the same by that time, too. We both agreed that we made a mistake and became the best of friends back, and we both spent our time with Carla, whenever we could!

The Happy Club

   The moment I open my diary, so many memories come up to my mind like a million colors. Like each color has it's own uniqueness, each memory has it's own specialty which would fill our hearts with varied emotions.

   Coming back to what I want to convey in this post, I want to tell you about the number of times I regretted for something bad I had done. 

   Looking back at the pages of my diary, I suddenly feel, "Why did I ever do something so mean to a person?" I feel like apologizing to that person at the very same second. But soon, I realize that it's too late. 

    In the month of January, 2011, me and my best friend started a small club named 'The Happy Club. We successfully ran it for 2 weeks or so. Later, many many people began to join the club and we started hosting many club meetings, contests, and many more. But, the only time when we both used to start a fight was in the matter of sharing the money we used to get.

    So, to avoid fights like that, we decided that one will get money only when they will take the initiative to invite others to join the club. We both agreed to it. Considering that, I managed to invite one of my classmate to the club. She readily joined it and paid me my money.

    I was too much excited and I went running to my best friend's bench to tell her that I got paid. As soon as I said that, she pounced, "I deserve that money because I also talked to her and it's because of me, too, that she joined the club!" I didn't like the sound of that, so I said, "okay, wait, I will be right back, soon," and went rushing to that girl who wanted to join and asked her to write a proof that it was only 'I' who deserves the money as I worked so hard to convince that the club is really worth joining.

    I was so selfish then, I still regret, that I was not ready to share the money, but instead, made her feel sad . . .because, as soon as I went to my best friend back with the proof in my one hand, she looked at me in horror, didn't even complete reading the proof, went to her bag, took out the club's money box , removed all the money inside it and handed them over to me, saying, "There you go, take all the money. My effort or yours, all you want is the money right? Take them all . . .be happy. That's what our club's motto is, right?"

    I was quite taken aback when she said that and stood there, completely speechless. I didn't take the money she gave. I didn't know how to act. After much hesitation, I yelled, "I'm not greedy, okay? Don't ever think that I want all that money! I don't even need one rupee of it! I don't want to feel this way, so better, you take the money ! At least, you be happy! I won't think that you are greedy. You be happy, YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF THE CLUB! AFTER ALL! Not me! I give up! "

    That was one time when the club almost failed. We had a big fight for a silly reason. But, we were so close best friends (and still are ) that we didn't want everything to ruin down. Both, the club and our friendship, so we managed to solve the money problem out and swore that we both would never ever fight because of this matter ever. She adjusted even when she also deserved the money; she gave the registration money of that girl to me. I said that I didn't want that anymore, but still, she forced me to take it.
   A week after all that happened and everything was alright and running smooth, I had not brought Math textbook and so didn't she. Unfortunately, we both had asked to borrow the book from the same person. Our fight started again. Yeah, but this time, it was even big. I argued that I was the one to ask first and also, her bench mate had a book already. She didn't listen to what I said and started arguing.I got angry went to my bench back, took my Happy Club batch and tore it into pieces.
   I still wonder what made me do that! After seeing me tearing my batch, the other members tore their batches too! And my best friend saw it and she cried . . .
   I said sorry to her a lot, later on. We both sat together and had long argument and finally, we became friends back. But, the only thing that didn't last was our club.
   The motto of it, to keep everyone happy, was never met because it was one of the reasons we always used to fight. Maybe it helped us earn money, but we were not happy by that. Or we were  . . . I still don't understand it yet. My best friend used to love it when she used to conduct all those club meetings.
  All what I wonder is, "why did I be so mean and become a reason for the quitting of the club. . .?"

Mistake

Yesterday night,  Megan had tried a lot in figuring out who has been stealing her favorite pies. This morning, she is so frustrated as she couldn't figure out who that was the previous night. Because of that, her 'today' is also ruined.
   Many a times, situations like these, even, come to me! I'm a kind of girl who's mood changes a lot. A second, I am the happiest girl. But the very next moment, if something happens, say, my friend doesn't accept my friend request on Facebook, I start feeling terrible. And that way, everything messes up and I'm unable to do my daily work.
   The stories of Megan and mine are self made, just for giving you an example. I have always tried to figure out a way to escape from these situations. Let me tell you my real life example where I'd been in a serious issue and still, I couldn't solve that.
   About a week ago, I was playing a game online with my best buddy (let's call 'x'). Suddenly, I got a text from one of my friends (let's call 'y') saying that she is unable to come to the Christmas celebrations. You see, neither me, nor my friends are Christians. Yet, this year, I got a Christmas party invitation. Not only did I, but so did all other friends of mine. Me and 'y' actually decided to go to the party together. As she was not coming, I had to stop coming, too. I became frustrated because I wanted to go to the party very desperately and my mother was not ready to send me without 'y'. Because of this frustration, I yelled on silly silly reason at 'x' while playing the game and made him angry and stop talking to me for a while. I was even more annoyed and my mood was terrible.

   All I could think was, "I'm such a mess. Firstly, I'm not going to the party and second, I made my best friend 'x' angry." And I started thinking so bad about me.
   Soon, I got another text for my ex-best friend (let's call 'z'). I really stopped bothering about her now but she sent me message even then. The text read: Hey, what are you doing?
   I, simply, replied: I'm not in mood to text. Talk to you later.
   I didn't want to give her the reason why I was upset so 'no mood' had helped me getting out of the situation but everything messed up at the end because she also got angry and stopped talking to me.
   My problem has been solved with 'x' easily, though but 'z' still, doesn't talk to me well. This New Year, I sent her a message, all she replied was, "Who is this?".
 
   I guess that's an end to my 'sad' story. I don't know what made me post this, but I hope that this will help you not to repeat mistakes like that. =)